Your Identity Is Running your life (And You Didn’t Even Pick It)

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Aug 3
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You’ve been doing all the things, manifesting, journaling, vision boards, “positive vibes only.” But somehow, you keep ending up in the same relationship patterns. The same job drama. The same burnout cycle.

It’s not because you’re lazy. It’s not because you’re not “manifesting hard enough.”

It’s because your identity is quietly running the show — and most of it isn’t even yours.

Wait… What Do I Mean by “Identity”?

I’m not talking about your name or career. I’m talking about the deep-down story you’ve believed about yourself for years:

“I’m the fixer.”
“I’m the strong one.”
“I’m too much.”
“I’m not enough.”

These stories didn’t come out of nowhere. They were built from conditioning, childhood roles, trauma — and they quietly dictate what feels safe, what feels possible, and even what relationships you think you deserve.

Why This Matters

If your core identity doesn’t agree with the life you say you want? You’ll sabotage it without even realizing.

It’s why you can hustle for the raise, chase the healthy relationship, do all the self-care… but still feel like you’re running in circles.

Until you interrupt that pattern, you’ll keep pulling yourself back into what’s familiar — even if it’s chaos.

What We’re Covering in the Podcast

In this episode of The Mind Madame Podcast, we dive deep into:

How identity actually forms (and why most of yours isn’t consciously chosen).
The sneaky ways it shows up in relationships and work (and keeps you stuck).
The identity confirmation loop that proves your worst fears true.
How to start shifting your identity — without faking it or bulldozing yourself with toxic positivity.