Anxious Attachment Isn’t Just About Dating & relationships. It's effects everything.

This isn’t just about your love life. Anxious attachment is how your brain scans every space, friendships, work, even sex, for signs that you might lose connection.

It’s not about being “too sensitive", "too needy" or "too much"

It’s about survival mode. Your system learned to stay safe by staying close. Even if it means overextending, overthinking, or overperforming.

Let’s break it down in plain terms:

🧍‍♂️ In Friendships

You’re loyal. You show up. But you’re also always wondering if it’s too much.

• You agree to hang out even when you're exhausted because you’re scared if you say no, they’ll stop asking.

• You double-text when someone leaves you on read. Then instantly regret it.

• You keep showing up for people who don’t check in back.

• You think, “Did I do something wrong?” when someone’s a little quieter than usual.

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You’re not needy. You’re just wired to scan for disconnection like it’s a threat.

:💼 At Work

You pride yourself on being reliable but it comes at a cost.

• You take on more than you can handle because saying no makes you feel guilty.

• You re-read your email five times to make sure the tone is right.

• You stress over vague Slack messages like “can we talk?”

• You overexplain your ideas to be taken seriously.

• You feel like one mistake means the whole team will turn on you.

  
  

You want to be seen as capable. But underneath? You’re managing the fear of being seen as a burden.

📱 In Communication

You’re hyper-aware of shifts in tone, punctuation, and timing.

• You get a “k” instead of “okay” and your brain spins stories.

• You panic when someone doesn’t respond, then feel embarrassed about spiraling.

• You say “I’m fine” because you don’t want to be dramatic — but inside, you’re not.

• You apologize for things that didn’t even upset the other person.

  
  

You’re not just talking you’re scanning for rejection and criticism.

🔥 In Sex & Intimacy

You crave closeness but it never feels quite safe to just receive it.

• You’re fully in until right after then you question everything.

• You give more than you want to because you want to be wanted.

• You feel anxious if they don’t text the next day.

• You ask, “Did I do okay?” even when everything went well.

  
  

Sex isn’t just connection. It’s reassurance. And without it, your system goes into overdrive.

Reminder: Anxious ≠ Weak

This isn’t about being too much. This is what happens when your nervous system thinks you have to earn your spot.

You adapted. You got good at reading people. Anticipating needs. Staying one step ahead.

But you’re exhausted. And you deserve more than survival mode.

Need a sounding board?

You don’t have to perform your way through life.

I work with men 1:1 to break down these patterns at work, in connection, in everyday life so you can lead from self-trust, not anxiety.

Shoot me a message when you’re ready. No pressure. Just clarity.

Coming soon:

• Disorganized Attachment: The Push-Pull Pattern That Confuses Everyone

• Secure Attachment: What Stability Looks Like Without Feeling Boring